 HOT BUTTONS
TOP 10 PARENT HOT BUTTONS. Something your teen says or does to make you vulnerable so you are less likely to stand your ground. They make you feel distracted during a confrontation where consequences would be warranted. They provide your teen with control. 1. "You never let me do anything! 2. "You don't love me." 3. "I hate you/this family!" 4. Swearing 5. You're not my real Mother/Father. I don't hav to listen to you." 6. A disgusted look, improper gesture or whiny voice 7. I'm gonna kill/hurt you/myself/others." 8. "I hate school; I'm not going." 9. Lying 10. I'm gonna leave or run away." TOP 8 TEEN HOT BUTTONS. Behaviors parents engage in when attempting to communicate with teens that can cause them to shut down. This greatly effects communication, which is key to a good relationship. 1. Preaching or nagging 2. Talking in chapters 3. Labeling 4. Futurizing 5. Instant problem-solving 6. You get moody sometimes 7. Not letting you experiment 8. Collecting criticisms Scott Sells PhD. Savannah Family Institute provided this information. www.difficult.net I attended the workshop by Dr Sells, "Parenting the Difficult Adolescent". If you are interested in learing about "hot buttons" and skills to deal with them, please attend one of my upcoming groups. See more information under "groups". |
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